Life Without a White Pickett Fence

These days it is more socially acceptable to be divorced than single and never been maried. The public makes a big issue of why someone has never married. A generation ago, divorce was seen as a bad thing, a stain on the relationship resume. Most marriges end in divorce, therefore people don't want to see themself in a bad light so they point the finger at single never been married, it makes them feel better. Todays culture is based on coupling at all cost. If you are single, you are seen as standing on the side line, second string, or mabe not very good at the game. Divorced people have demonstrated they are capable of commitment, there is no confusion about their sexual orientation and now that they have had practice in their first marriage surely they will not make the same mistakes in their next relationship! Single never married seems synonymous with immaturity. You are seen as wanting to evade responsibilty. If I have heard it once I have heard it a hundred times "You do not know what your missing". Self centered mabe, but never immature or not responsible. One should not have to settle for a schmuck and have gotten the shaft just to have walked down the aisle. If that were the case the next thing one would hear is"someone obviously wanted you enough to marry you, therefore you are not so bad". Coupledom is a sign of normal psychology. People who don't do it are under suspician, you are seen as gay, aboor or a criminal. Yet you have no alimony to pay or shared custody of kids, now I think that is pretty damm sexy. Relationship skills, sexuality, needs, or wants have never been an issue or question for myself. I know who I am, I just need a lot of private time to be mentally healthy. I have really never worry what other people think. I do know that I will never lose my home, have to divide up assets in a divorce, no dragging kids thru a custody battle, or have to fight over ownership of the dog. My pay check is mine to spend as I please and I can come and go as I please. I can clean house if I want, cook what I want, do the laundry if I want and even walk around the house in the nude if I feel like it. Gay, immature, selfish, selfcentered, well sticks and stones. Society tells me I am missing the best of life, yet this country was founded on and celebrates independence. My life is meaningful and interesting and I think that is cool and gutsy.