It Just Kind of Happened

     Valentine's  Day, a day when lovers are suppose to think of each other.  Married or just living together, chocolates and flowers can be an easy way out of an I didn't know what to do situation.  I can't speak to the marriage commitment but the living together arrangement has served me well several times on Valentine's Day.  Before you cast me among the anti marriage lot let me make it perfectly  clear, marriage is fine for some while living together is fine for others.  If you don't  want kids or there are no kids living at home,  moving in and out as often as you want is a simple lifestyle.  No commitment has worked for me over the years but I was always thinking of the other side of the bed and having engagement ring nightmares come Valentine's Day.  One can use the excuse "you don't need a piece of paper to prove your love" for so long before she starts to wave her finger in front of your face.
     Pick up your socks and why are there panties hanging in the bathroom are both signs that marriage might not be a good ideal.  But couples rarely split up over socks or panties at least that is if the panties in question belong to the person standing in the middle of the conversation!  Believe me, I had my sock defense ready a long time ago, I wear  nondescript white socks day after day.  Most breakups are caused by affairs, alcohol, addiction,abuse or finances.  So what's wrong with simply living together?  I've heard all the professionals say married couple are happier, I don't believe them.  Every relationship I've had has been a happy one at least for a little while.
     When I look back on the relationships in my life they all just kind of happened.  I liked her she liked me and before you knew it we were shoving our stuff into the same closet  and discussing furniture.  I never once thought about breakup or God forbid divorce and for sure, picking up my socks never entered the mind.
     Commitment is a decision.  No one can definitively know if a relationship will last or whether marriage is in the cards.  I have learned to never say never but if I were ever to marry it would probably just happen.  At my age I know better than to leave my socks laying around and as far as panties hanging in the bathroom, well that's probably the most excitement I could hope for.on any Valentine's Day.  It's best to let thing happen and keep an open mind.  Love and Kisses everyone!